It is common to see a lot of men claim that the girl they are hanging with is just a friend. Most people understand that what starts as friendship may not remain that way forever. There are a lot of complexities and tensions which prevent a sustainable platonic friendship. A common proverb states that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. This may be a bit of an exaggeration, but it makes a valid point. It is very rare for men to remain friends with women who they find attractive. Men generally approach girls they feel attracted to. Although they may start out as friends, the guy will eventually disclose his intentions if he is still attracted to his female friend.
Friendships Usually Don’t Last Forever
No one likes to hear that friendships cannot last forever. However, friendship between a man and woman can be difficult to sustain forever. Many friendships transmute into another form of a relationship such as love, dating, marriage etc. Men who are attracted to their female friends will most likely approach the woman with prospects of a relationship or marriage. In cases where the woman agrees, the friendship transforms into love or marriage. If the woman disagrees, their friendship will most likely come to an end. The last thing that guy needs to witness, is the woman of his dreams being with someone else. Men would rather cut off all ties with the woman, than subject himself to emotional torture.
Less Common Situations
A friendship between a man and woman built on common interests such as art, academics, music, etc may seem to last longer. It is very common to see a doctor married to a surgeon, a music professional married to another musician, etc. because that was most likely a major connecting bond for the couple. However, a platonic friendship can better be developed in these situations because the two had been working together for so long that they developed a “brother and sister” bond, and any feelings of attraction have come and gone.
Greatest friendships recorded in history are those between people of the same sex. It is very uncommon to come across famous friendships between people of opposite sex. It is even more uncommon to come across this situation in younger people.
It is very rare to come across enduring long lasting platonic friendships between a man and woman. A superficial form of friendship is definitely possible between a man and woman due to work, business, or recreation, but there may come a point when the guy cannot contain it any longer. With his feelings out in the open, it’s either a relationship further develops into dating or their friendship begins to fade. There are times when men can be platonic friends with girls but that can be hard to find.
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