More often than not, relationships don’t end mutually. Many times, one partner or another wants to break up and truth is that both the person who is being dumped and the person who is doing the dumping are having a hard time. Since ending a relationship is not easy, many people procrastinate and end up delaying a break up for a long time which might in the end work against them.
Why People Delay a Break Up
It’s not unusual for a person to want to end a relationship but they keep delaying because they feel responsible for making the other person feel sad or making him or her cry. Love is a gamble. People who are in relationships are responsible for their own actions and their partner should not protect them. Keep in mind that people and situations change. You can’t expect this relationship to last forever. It’s better to end a relationship sooner rather than later when all that resentment has built up.
Honesty Is The Best Policy
If you were in their shoes, wouldn’t you want to know what’s going on? Before being lovers, you are friends. That’s why you keep procrastinating, because you care about them as a friend. Well, you must be completely honest to your friends, otherwise the lies simply keep piling up. Don’t keep them in the dark any longer because they will eventually find out one way or the other that you’ve been delaying it for so long.
You’re Putting Your Love Life on Hold
If you delay breaking up with your current lover, then you should understand that you’re putting your love life on hold. Without cheating, there’s no way you can put yourself out there and try to find someone who is truly compatible with who you are today. Your current partner might also miss the love of their life simply because you keep delaying the break up.
Faking Love Only Makes Things Worse
People say that love grows stronger with each passing day. And this might not be the case for you, but for your partner it probably is. With each day that passes, they will love you more or plan for a future, a holiday, marriage, creating a life together. By keeping them straddled alongside, you will only make it that much harder for them when you finally decide to leave. By ending it sooner, you’re doing both yourselves a favor.
A Lie You May Start Believing
By going on and on with the same lie that you love him or her, you may end up believing it. You might settle for this relationship because it’s here already and it’s comfortable and you don’t have to work for it. But this won’t make you truly happy in the end. By ending the relationship today you will end the lie once and for all.
Put an end to the relationship today. Stop delaying the breakup because you might end up living a lie every day of your life. Or you might fake it too well and it will go on until your partner is in too deep. Don’t put your love life on hold and stop protecting others by not putting yourself first. And remember, be honest with the people you care about!
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