Do you find yourself wondering if you’re in a
toxic relationship?
Maybe you’ve been there. Or maybe you know
someone who has.
Maybe you find
yourself in a dating relationship in which things aren’t the way you
had hoped.
Maybe the disappointment has just started
settling in — or maybe you’ve been struggling for years.
Maybe you’ve even spent your energy trying to
block out the still, small, voice telling you that something just isn’t right.
And now, here it is again.
Whether a newbie
to toxic relationships, or a veteran….you’re here because there’s
a relationship in your life that’s just not the way it should be. Something is
wrong.
Maybe it’s that guy, who doesn’t seem to be as interested in you as you are in him.
Maybe it’s the girl who never seems to take initiative in your relationship.
Maybe it’s that person who keeps saying “I’m
going to change” and then never does.
Maybe it’s that nasty argument you had last
night, that keeps happening again, and again, and again, like a bad song on
repeat.
Maybe it’s those lies and secrets that you
keep trying to pretend don’t exist.
Maybe it’s the fact that you’re not, and
never have been, on the same page spiritually.
Maybe it’s because you find yourself always
having to be someone you’re not.
Maybe it’s that on again, off again,
emotional roller coaster ride that you’ve been dealing with for God only knows
how long.
Or maybe, just maybe, it’s even more severe.
Maybe it’s abuse.
Maybe it’s addictions.
Maybe it’s betrayal.
A toxic relationship can come in many forms.
No matter what it is for you, crappy relationships exist when there’s a pattern of
unhealthy behaviors, feelings, or interactions in a dating relationship. Things
that keep coming up, time and time again. Unhealthy patterns that aren’t
changing and aren’t going away.
Sometimes, you can
be in a relationship for so long that you stop seeing how unhealthy it really is until someone points it out. And even then, you try to make
excuses. You try to ignore it. You try to pretend that it’s all okay. But deep
down, in the silence and quiet of the night, you find yourself struggling with
that sinking feeling.
How did I end up
here?
I wish I could answer that question for you.
I wish I could sit down with you, and hear your entire story from start to
finish, and help you work through that important question.
But what I will
tell you is this: the more you love yourself, the faster you’ll notice when
something in a relationship just isn’t right.
The more you love yourself, the easier it
will be to recognize a relationship in which you’re not really loved.
Because LOVE isn’t a feeling. It’s not an
empty word.
Love is a decision.
Love is not just something we feel, love is
something we see. It’s an action played out day in and day out that portrays
patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control. It doesn’t display envy, it’s
not rude, and it’s not arrogant.
Love is a choice someone makes to treat you
the way you deserve to be treated.
And maybe you know that. But maybe, just
maybe, you just needed to hear it again. Because the truth is,
relationships don’t just magically change when you get married. What
you see in dating, you will ALWAYS see in marriage…multiplied by a factor of
one hundred. Because marriage is like a pressure cooker, and everything you put
in there get’s magnified and intensified. So if there’s something in a relationship
that’s not changing…maybe it’s time to let it go.
My prayer for you
is that this new year you learn to see yourself for what you are TRULY WORTH. Loved, valued, and worthy…because
of a God who made you in His very image. That same God looks at you and longs
for you to seek out a relationships that reflects the deep and ferocious love
HE feels for you. Because love like this….well, it’s all part of His plan.
Whoever you are, whatever you’re going
through, and whatever you’ve done…May this be your year of new beginnings. May
this be the year that you finally LET GO of crappy relationships once and for all, and open your
heart to something greater.
If you find yourself struggling to let go of
a bad relationship, or constantly involved in unhealthy ones, It’s time to make
some changes in your life, and there’s no better time to start than RIGHT NOW.
Contact:
HeartPrints Planet
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