When
a woman gets to the stage where marriage seems to be the single most important
thing in the universe, the doors of temptation fling wide open. Patience,
grace, and feminine mystique are put to the ultimate test. But sisters, here’s
one thing to remember; DO NOT approach a man when he is hungry or thirsty!
My dad does not function very
well when he is hungry. A brother I know, who everyone also knows is super
humorous and cheerful can be a tantrum-throwing baby and completely irrational
when he’s hungry (maybe I’m exaggerating a little bit. But the point is, I have
noticed men don’t like to be bothered when they are hungry.
Boaz, Ruth’s husband was
apparently the same way, hence Naomi’s instructions;
“Wash
yourself therefore, and anoint yourself and put on your best clothes, and go
down to the threshing floor; but do not make yourself known to the man until
he has finished eating and drinking.” (Ruth 3:3)
Naomi decided that it was time
for Ruth to be married. She instructed her to prepare herself and go down to
the threshing floor where Boaz would be winnowing barley (in other words – he
was at a place where he was separating trash from treasure). Ruth was to wait
for four things to happen;
1. Wait until he’s done his
work (of separating trash from treasure)
2. Wait until he is done
eating
3. Wait until he is done
drinking
4. Wait until he is sleeping
The same instructions are
given to virtuous women today. If you notice a young man who you are impressed
to see as fit to take on the role of husband, father, and priest, you must
ensure that he has done his work of getting rid of “chaff” in his life.
Psalm 1:4 lets us
know… “Boaz was winnowing in order to get rid of the “worthless” part of
the grain.”
Everyone has chaff and there
are some things that you cannot afford to allow into a relationship. From a
distance, Ruth waited and watched Boaz thresh barley. From a distance, you must
also take notice to see whether this man is actively working with the Lord to
get rid of “worthless things” in his life.
Then she had to wait until he
was done eating.
“Jesus
said to them, “I am the bread of life; he who comes to Me will not hunger, and
he who believes in Me will never thirst.” (John 6:35)
A man who is still hungry has
not yet come to Jesus, and if he is thirsty, he has not yet believed in your Saviour.
Researchers found that “when
people are hungry, they are more likely to be angry or aggressive…the reason is
because: serotonin levels — a hormone that helps regulate behaviour, fluctuate
when people are stressed out or haven’t eaten.” Basically, when someone is
hungry, the levels of serotonin are so affected that it causes one to react in
anger, irritation, or frustration. You can expect a man who is not spiritually
fed to react in the same manner.
Finally, Ruth had to wait
until Boaz was asleep.
“Come
to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”(Matthew 11:28)
Has this man found spiritual
rest in Christ? Too many men are stressed out, burnt out, and have no rest.
These characteristics will add stress to your relationship. It is vital that he
finds rest for his soul.
Note that before God brought
Eve to Adam, Adam had eaten , he had rivers of pure water , he had his work ,
and he fell asleep. All these Boaz had also done. Now it’s time for Ruth to
make her entrance!
But wait…
Maybe you’re thinking that in
order for this man to notice you, you have to do something to make him notice
you right? No, Ruth does the opposite…she lies down. She doesn’t make any sound
to wake up Boaz. Ruth approached quietly…and lay down.
When the time comes for you to
make yourself known to a man worthy of you, you make your self-known by not
making yourself known.
Proverbs 25:2 says “It is the glory of God to conceal a
matter but the glory of kings to search it out.”
If a man is truly a Godly
king, the Lord will wake him up to your presence and he will search you out.
All you have to do is “lay low” and let the Lord wake him up.
But what does you “laying low”
means? Should you just sit back and wait for him to come knock at your door?
TO
BE CONTINUED
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