Many young girls are
taught at some point in their lives that Prince charming is going to come along
Well, sort of…
I dislike large weddings. I
dislike wedding receptions even more. I never wanted the attention. I’m quite
shy and the thought of all eyes being on me makes me extremely nervous. In my mind,
I settled for a small and intimate outdoor ceremony. You know, the one similar
to Jason and Sabrina’s in “Jumping the Broom”. Of course without all of the
family drama! After some self-examination, I realized that I was more
infatuated with the idea of marriage than actually being married. I found
myself fantasizing what it would be like. I thought about all the things I
would no longer have to do. You know things like, take out the trash, rake the
leaves, hire outside help to tackle home or car repairs, and my all-time favourite-shovel
snow. Chicago winters are brutal! I would have someone to protect me if I heard
a bump in the night. No longer would I have to creep downstairs with my weapon
in tow. I mean I had a laundry list of things that he could do for “me”. I had
this thing down to a science. This was going to relieve so much pressure off of
me. Yeah, I had big plans for him.
Until God began speaking…
For the record, I’m a huge
advocate of the word of God. I believe in marriage. I believe that God ordains
marriage and it should be Christ centred. I wholehearted believe in Proverbs
18:22…which states that, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour
from the Lord.” I’m also intrigued with Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man
shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they
shall become one flesh”.
I enjoy seeing married couples
expressing their love for one another. Something about their aura gives me
such joy. I tend to think only of the giddiness and can often be blinded of the
reality of what marriage truly entails.
But God has a delightful way
of revealing things to us.
It wasn’t until I was having a
conversation with my friend that God reminded me of my very own words spoken
years before. As I’m on the phone, we are talking about men and all the
quirky things that gets under our skin. Mid-sentence, God reminded me of the
proclamation that I’d made years earlier. “You said that you wanted to be
married” He reminded what I said about marriage not being about the wedding,
but a lifelong covenant before Him. He reminded what I said about accepting
people for who they are and not who I would like them to be. I was reminded
that I asked Him to create in me a servant’s heart. A servant serves. Whether
it’s cooking dinner when you don’t feel up to it…picking up his clothes off the
floor (for the zillionth time)…or letting down the infamous toilet seat…all of
these things come along with it. I could do nothing but look up and laugh. God
has such a sense of humour.
I strongly believe that God
places us in seasons of preparation. He tests our hearts, patience, and faith
during our seasons. He may test our emotional, spiritual, or physical health
during these seasons. I believe He has to prepare us so we are well equipped to
handle whatever he’s trying give us, do to us, or work through us. I
strongly believe that I’m in my season of preparation for marriage. During this
time, God is allowing me to work on some character flaws within myself. He’s
also using this time to reveal ALL the things that come along with being a
wife. In the meantime, I’m learning to enjoy my season of singleness and the
journey of preparation God has placed me on.
TO BE CONTINUED
well said
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