THE UNTOLD PART OF ME 2

I sat there in a daze as I listened to her telling me that her family didn’t think I was good enough for

her because I didn’t come from the best background, I wasn’t as pretty as her other boyfriends in her past, and I was just another guy she used to keep herself occupied for the time being. Really?

Even after hearing this, I still loved her. I wanted to prove her family wrong. I wanted them to see how much I loved her unconditionally. I wanted them to finally get to know the loving, funny, and hardworking man I really am.

But that didn’t happen. After dating her for over 4 years, she ended up marrying someone she had known for only 4 months. She said she knew by their third date that he was the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with.

As I enter the dating scene again, I can’t help but wonder what I could have done differently. Why wasn’t I the one she wanted to spend the rest of her life with? Was I too skinny, not handsome enough, or not smart enough? As all of these questions raced through my mind, I had to face one simple fact… God don’t make mistakes.

If I start dating again, the woman God has for me will love me for me… flaws and all. My past won’t hinder our future. Where others may see deficiencies, she will see beauty. She’ll recognize that my worth is not defined by who I work for, what I drive, or the clothes I wear. While I’m not perfect, I’ll be perfect for her and that’s what matters.

When I start dating again, I won’t fight so hard or go to great depths to prove to others that I am worthy. Either they accept me as God made me or they don’t… and even if they don’t, I will still know my worth. According to God’s word, “I am complete in Him” (Colossians 2:10)

When I start dating again, I will make sure God is my number one focus and I will not let anything or anyone come along and take His place in my heart. I can’t say that this has always been the case though. Sometimes we have to go through horrible things, to get us to focus on the things we should have been focusing on all along. 

When I start dating again, I will consult with God about my decisions and choices. I’ll pray for guidance and wisdom. I’ll pray that He reveals the true hearts of those who cross my path and protect me from those who mean me no good.

When I start dating again, I won’t be so quick to give my body to someone who doesn’t deserve me. My body is sacred and that’s why I’ve decided to wait for the “one”. Not for my girlfriend, not for my fiancée, but for my wife. I understand that a lot of men will consider this a deal breaker, but the woman God has for me will wait for me.

You see, had my focus been on Him all along, I would not have missed some very important caution signs. Through prayer and discernment, I would have known years ago that the relationship was going absolutely nowhere.

When I start dating again, God will be my #1 priority!

But this resolution took me tons of mistakes and misled of walking in my own path or righteousness before His grace found me. Like Paul, I was the worst of sinners with how I broke hearts after my first encounter with relationship. But thank God for His mercies.

For the struggles, the betrayal, hearts broken and resolution of who I am now in Christ. Watch out for the Part 3.

To Be Continued.